In our life, there are so many people that come and go, only a few stay on.
As the world’s standard move from one level to another, more and more competitions in all aspect of life
and society are coming up too.
As you meet more and more people around you, things can either can go in a good way or bad way.
Good,because you can expand your social network and you can gain benefit from one another. Or best, foster a r/s and build a good friendship.
Bad, because you never know what will happen if that person happens to be someone who will obstruct your ways to success, demoralized you, pull you down or even worst.
There are people around you who are so competence in terms of look,ability, management or even the overall.
And there are times is either you admire their charismatic, and what they have.
Or you even feel so incompetence when comparing to them.Then you started feel so frustrated over yourself, thinking why cant you be like them?
As you continue to drown on such though., Sub consciously, you start to self pity or even dislike yourself.
Work you produced, you will NEVER be happy with it.
Because to a certain extend, you had been indoctrinated with those negative mindset.
Hence, whatever work you produced that comes into your eyes and mind will never be pleasing.
UNTIL, you got ASSURANCE that your work is good. and that ASSURANCE has to come from someone who has the rank,authority or a person whom you know is very direct.
If not, you will just simply feel that people around you saying “yea is good”, “excellent” are just entertaining you and motivating you.
Oh well my personal opinion is…
Yes,we are human. We do have feeling and get affected when things happen.
But ! We human, most of us tends to focus on our feeling and what had happenED.
Instead of focusing HOW (solution), we always get controlled by our emotions, dwelling on the incident.
Hence, instead of keep thinking so and so is competence.
so and so is really smart and capable etc. I feel so incompetence, cmi.
or am i even that worst in the first place?
Why not think other way round and direct your focus instead.
Stop thinking you are CMI , but start working on it and learn from that person to see how you can improve it. Or, start coming out with a plan about how you can go around improve on it based on your own studies and use the so and so work as reference. Reflect on where go wrong, and what could be done better.
Personally,i feel that the weapon to defeat all these thoughts is 2 things.
Willingness, and Humbleness.
Have a Thick Skin, and Thin Heart.
Have a Thick Skin, be willing enough to ask and learn. Have a thin heart that is humble at all time to be able to receive what others teach you,and comment about your work.
So long as you are willing to put down yourself, thick skin enough to approach people,ask and learn from them, you will keep on improving.
If by learning from people will make you feel awkward,shy then your progression will be very slow.
On this earth, we are always learning from one another. Even when you learned from books or online, those are written by other people too.
And if by allowing people to critique your work will make you feel like you will lost your pride/ego,
then you will never improve. Because you never get to know where your work stand.
End up, people around you might just entertain you and said “excellent work” when is not.Wont that be more unrealistic, and worst?
Hence,have a thick skin and thin heart.
If u really wana do well in smth, don’t drown into other ppl’s thoughts. You can never please everyone in this world. Neither do this world revolve around you forever.
Their thoughts is a weapon to demoralize u. Use humbleness and courage as ur weapon to defeat back. Stay humble and willing to be thick skin enough to learn as mentioned
Again, Have a thick skin, thin heart.
As I was saying earlier on, there are so many competitions going around in our life, society in our world.
At the end of the day what satisfied us is not only the effort, but the reward too.
Talking about reward, what type of reward are we looking at?
Physical and materialistic reward, or reward that are unseen and yet we can feel that it is a success?
Let say entering a competition whereby your prize(reward) is won a pair of ticket to Paris.
To me, Yes, is human nature for me to get excited for it and wanting to aim the reward initially.
However, when i get serious with my work in the competition i will have a different focus.
To me, is NOT totally about the reward anymore.
But rather, how well can i produced my work.
For me, in a competition, reward is motivating and of course i would love to win it.
However, my heart and focus would not be on the reward.
I would put my focus and heart on the work and processes instead.
Because i know, at the end of the day, i would truly be satisfied and happy when my work is of quality and productive. I would truly be satisfied and happy even though i didnt win any prize, because i know i had put all my heart, thoughts and sincere into it. I know my effort is in there and is pay off. I would truly be rejoice when i know work i produced is out of sincerity and with efforts.
Rewards, are just like an incentive.
The reason why i did not put on my focus on to the reward, because i believe what you reap is what you sow.
How can you even reap when you hadnt even sow?
And i believe if i put my focus on the reward, sub consciously i will get distracted.
My full attention wont be put on to the progression of the work.
I believe in setting your heart, mind on the right focus in order to get a real and sincere reward.
The most sincere reward you can ever get, is looking at the quality work you put in with all your thoughts,heart,mind and soul.
Hence, set your focus on the right track, and then start walking towards the finishing line.
No matter what you do, dont stop halfway. Even if things arent going your way, keep on moving.
Giving up halfway, meaning is already confirm dead. But if you keep moving and moving toward, there is always a glimpse of hope down there. Just like when you are walking in a tunnel, dont stop but keep walking and you will sure see a light that lead you the way out.
Thus, no matter what you do, be of good courage and do not dismayed. Be of a good finisher !
Sometimes, is not always about the process but also about how you end the path too.
You may not have a good starting, but you always have the right to choose where you want to land your journey :)
Have. Only. Positive. Expectations